Well I’m here to tell you how to build a relationship. First I believe you should always look for someone that have god in their life, unique, different, compassion but hard at the same time. You probably are asking me what are you talking about? Well let me help you out here. Its always important that a person is very strong, independent, have purpose, have a vision, confident, know what they want, know where they going, know how to lead and mainly have a solid foundation. But It is also important that a person is loving, humble, romantic, submissive, caring, not conceited, know how to follow, looking to share their life with someone and knowing exactly what they what out of life. One of the main reasons why I say that is because you definitely don’t wont to be with anybody that’s selfish, unbalance and double-minded.
Why hook up with somebody that don’t know how to be hook up with because they been lonely all of their lives. Of course its your choice to be with who you want to be with but don’t get mad at them for being who they are. Just realize you found them lonely so they don’t how to give up of themselves. So if you like other things about them and you still want to have a relationship, remember that sharing is something that might be real hard for them to relate to. You must show them how to share with patience. You probably is asking me why do you say with patience. Well since you ask let me tell you why did I say patience. Example: In order for a flower to grow you must water it more than one time. RIGHT! I’m sure you agree with me, so what makes you think a person will change overnight. It don’t work like that and its going to be a process. So be patient with your mate or just except them they way that they are or just move on to someone more compatible to what you want.
Consistency shows a lot and your time is of value, so when you are dating look for repetitious things. Like body language, eye contact, how much he or she talks and listens, how opinionated they are and mainly how supportive they are concerning everything about you. I know you want example and if you been reading up on me, I love to give an examples. Here we go baby! If you are out on a date and you and your date are having a serious conversation about money. Lets say he believes the man is the head of the house, so he feels like he should control the money. But you believe that it should be 50/50 and y’all should work together. Well when you state your opinion watch his actions. If he gets easily angry or aggressively defend his opinion or even if it is a fact that he is the head of the house, why would he be telling you. Remember Y’all are just on a date so that means at the particular moment and time he shouldn’t be mentioning he is the HEAD OF THE HOUSE! If he aggressively defends his position as a man you might be dealing with a controller, abuser or an unbalance man. What do I mean, that’s probably what you are asking? Well I believe your actions speak louder than your words. I don’t believe a man should never have to mention his role as a man, he should just play his show and play his role. Example: A male actor: What do he do? He play and show his role, he don’t have to tell you about it. You will just pay your money when you go the movies and just see for your self. Can I get a AMEN LADY’S! AMEN…
These are ways a man can show you how he is good with money and you might let him control the finances after this: (and it is still a might)
1. How he dress
2. Do he keep a clean cut
3. How he drive
4. Is his house clean
5. How detail orientated he is (neatness)
6. Do he keep a budget
7. Do he spend on unnecessary things
8. Did he pay for your meal
9. How much do he give to you and charity
10. That ‘A’ Credit ( you know good credit)
Secret and important tip: This is how you can tell if you really have a good steward over his money. This really only depends on how much he likes you. Tell him about a specific things you like or stuff you just want do. Like go to school, buy a house and buy a car. Immediately watch his body language and reaction after you tell him. If he is calm and collective and he start giving you financial advice, or maybe even offer to pay for it or show you away to get it done. Then baby girl you got a good one! But if he starts to get a little disturbed about what you want and he start talking about his financial problems. Then girl just know that he got financial baggage and if you want him, 50/50 is the way to go. I am firm believer in 100/100 because anything can happen to your mate. I want her to depend on me and God. So what does that means? I should always be in the position as a man to be able to take care of her. So what does that mean? I must let go of all past failures, Eliminate all excuses, Educate myself, start a business, invest, save, give, have a job, keep my business options open, get out of debt if I am in debt, get and stay healthy if I’m not, leave an inheritance for my family, and most importantly is to keep god in my life.So how do you build a relationship and keep peace in it and your home. Look for something different but well balance and make sure they have God in there life some where. Don’t get hook up with somebody that is completely hateful, careless, devilish, selfish, thoughtless, foolish, cheap, weak, conceited and don’t know where they going. Not established! You what what I’m saying Ladies and gentlemen, don’t settle for less. Go after your heart desire, choose the person you want to be with but make sure they are supportive of you and everything about you. Remember relate is the root word to relationship, so that means the person you are hooking up with must relate to you some kind of way. I hope I gave you an idea on what to look for in a man or woman, because a person characteristics are very important in a relationship. Always look for the best for you and someone else interest!