Marriage is the only sign of true commitment – at least that’s what is drilled into our heads over and over again since a very young age. If you are not married then the majority of society thinks that you are not in a committed relationship but instead you are in more of a pretend relationship.
The truth is that marriage is showing the world that you are married – that’s it.
You’ve signed some papers and you wear some rings. You look married and you feel married and therefore you are married. It doesn’t represent commitment.
The difference between not getting married and get married does not lie in the way you feel about each other or the validity of your relationship, it only lies in the fact that you do not have those papers that legally bind you together in marriage.
A completely committed relationship and a marriage are the same thing in terms of the feelings towards each other and the actions you take toward each other. They are on equal playing ground.
So the thought of staying monogamous in a relationship without marriage becomes as much as an issue as staying monogamous in a marriage.
So here are three ways to have a monogamous relationship whether you are married or never plan on getting married.
1. Communication – Communication is the key to a happy and healthy relationship.
If you are upset with the amount of sex or attention your partner is giving you then you have to communicate it to them for them to fully understand how you feel. You can’t expect them to read your mind and give you everything you need if they don’t know what that is.
2. Honesty – The biggest part of communication.
You can talk to each other till you are blue in the face but if you don’t use honestly while doing so then you might as well not communicate at all.
No one can treat you the way you want or deserve to be treated unless you are completely honest with whom you are and what you want.
3. Passion – Keep the passion alive.
The initial fire that burns within both of you when you first met may die off a bit as the relationship goes takes its course. This can in some cases result in being unhappy in the relationship and possibly looking for that passion somewhere else.
The truth is you can recreate that passion as strong as, and as often as you want.
Try doing things you don’t normally do like having sex in crazy places or even mixing up where you go out for your date night every week.
Do adrenaline producing activities together and you will feel an amazing rush of excitement towards one another plus the same passion you felt when your relationship was newly formed.
Staying monogamous in a committed relationship is easy when your relationship is healthy and happy.
So spend more time worrying about keeping your relationship strong and healthy and less time worrying about whether marriage will automatically do that just because you have the papers that say it should.